Boylove
Ein Boylover (BL, dt.: Knabenliebhaber) ist eine Person, die sich in erster Linie zu Jungen hingezogen fühlt. Genaue Definitionen wurden schon vielfach und kontrovers diskutiert. Eine relativ universelle Definition stammt von Alexis, einem Benutzer des BoyChat von 1997: Ein Boylover ist eine Person, die, sofern sie sich verliebt, dazu tendiert, sich in Jungen zu verlieben.
Eigenschaften von Knabenliebhabern
Knabenliebhaber gibt es in allen Bevölkerungsgruppen, in aller Welt und in jedem Alter.
Die Faktoren, welche BL definieren, sind vielfältig, wobei als umstrittenster das sexuelle Interesse gilt, mit welchem häufig eine starke, körperliche Hingezogenheit zu Knaben impliziert wird. Die ich-syntonen BL haben diese aber akzeptiert, und bekämpfen sie nicht als böse oder moralisch verwerflich, sie empfinden sie im Gegenteil als normalen, gesunden Teil ihrer Persönlichkeit. Viele BL fühlen sich dazu berufen, ob privat oder auch in pädagogischen oder sozialen Bereichen, für Jungen zu sorgen, sie zu schützen, zu unterstützen, oder zu lehren.
BL werden nicht immer ausschließlich von Knaben angezogen, manche interessieren sich in unterschiedlichem Maße auch für Mädchen (siehe auch Girllover oder Pädophiler), Frauen und/oder Männer.
Boylovers can be attracted to any age boy, although most boylovers have a particular affection for boys within a certain age range. At the two extremes of the spectrum of age preferences, there are boylovers who are primarily attracted to younger children from 3 to 6 and those who are primarily attracted to boys who are into puberty or older. They are often labeled with the terms little boy lovers and teen boy lovers. These terms more properly describe the qualities the boylover enjoys most and the age ranges he prefers; though most boylovers have an age of attraction falling somewhere between the lower bound of little boy lover and upper bound of teen boy lover. The term "boylover", however, is all-encompassing.
Boylover culture
Most self-identified boylovers in the online boylove community value the ideals expressed by boylove. Because being a boylover is only a small part of a person's personality, boylovers run the same range of personalities as heterosexual or homosexual persons. Therefore boylovers are normal people with no particular or peculiar claim to being upright or moral. The only universally accepted code of ethics among boylovers is to never hurt a boy (a consequence of the so-called golden rule). However, there is neither agreement on what is harmful or not harmful, nor on what constitutes acceptable risk.
The most dividing issue among boylovers is the issue of sex. Some feel that sex is not inherently harmful, and some feel that sex is not an acceptable activity. Most who argue against sex say that society's stigma against homosexuality makes boys ill-prepared to handle the possible emotional and societal consequences of a sexual relationship, and the possibility of harm is too great. Others who argue against sex say that the simple reality of the law and its consequences renders more abstract analysis moot. For example, a sexual relationship between a man and a boy will cause the boy to lose his adult friend when the relationship is discovered. Even if the sex itself were inherently harmless, the loss of a beloved friend or father figure, public exposure of a socially inappropriate relationship, and resulting legal action could be very traumatic to the boy.
Boylovers in history
History records evidence of boylovers as far back as ancient Greece. Across time and religions, boylovers have shaped history and left an indelible imprint in the minds of humanity. Socrates, Hippocrates, Leonardo da Vinci, and famous poets such as those mentioned in the 1001 Arabian Nights are all examples of famous boylovers (see Category:Famous boylovers for more). From the Stone Age to the Space Age, boylovers have existed alongside people of other sexual attractions.
In modern times, boylovers are often reviled in the media and other popular thought. Much myth and prejudice surround boylovers in most modern Western cultures. This often but not always leads to initial feelings of depression, isolation, futility, and self-hatred. The discovery of other boylovers or the boylove community helps to reinforce the idea of responsible behavior and focus on the positive aspects of being a boylover.
Alternative terminology
The exact definition--both denotatively and connotatively--of the word "boylover" has been a topic of intense debate almost since the word itself came into common usage. Being as the word originally rose to popularity as a reaction against an increasing misusage and bastardization of the word "pedophile," the entire history of the word has been accompanied by many discussions, debates and often downright arguments about various shades of meaning attributed to this word and its many proposed replacements.
This ongoing debate has spawned many neologisms and new expressions as various individuals attempt to come to terms with their own status as a boylover and find a label with which they feel comfortable. In many cases, these labels are classificatory, which is to say, they are not intended to change the connotation but merely further divide the supergroup of boylovers into identifiable subcategories (the terms little boy lover and teen boy lover are examples of this type of sublabeling).
In other cases, the new labels are connotative, that is to say, attempts to achieve entirely new connotations under the belief that the boylove movement as a whole is better served by utilizing a term over which they themselves control the connotations and not their opponents. Critics of this tendency point out that any new expression which begins to gain popularity will simply be coopted yet again by the mass media and popular consciousness, resulting in a never-ending search for yet more new terms, and that boylovers are best served by stubbornly insisting on their definitions for the terms already in use.
Examples of some terms which qualify as this type of connotative relabeling are:
- pedosexual - An attempt to standardize boylove as a sexual preference or orientation, coined by analogy with the terms heterosexual and homosexual. Critics of this term note that neologisms tend to alienate readers and listeners, and the obvious resonance with the term "pedophile" does not succeed in redefining the connotation.
- minor attracted adult (abbreviated MAA) - An expression designed to sanitize the concept into the realm of psychological and clinical writings. Critics note that the obvious euphimism may serve to draw more, not less, attention to the negative connotations we seek to avoid, and often imitate sheep while saying it. Additionally, critics have argued the term excludes many younger boylovers who aren't yet adults and also does not accurately describe boylovers in places where the age of majority is quite low. Teen boy lovers can often not be accurately described as minor attracted adults.
- responsible boylove - A term invented by a single individual who believed that the usage of the term "boylover" by people who seemed to be sexual predators or child molesters was diluting the intended connotation and thus wished to distinguish himself from the crowd. Critics of this term see it as an implication that boylove itself is somehow inherently irresponsible and must be thusly distinguished.
- puerosexual - A recoinage of "pedophile" using the Latinate root for "boy." Critics note that this term suffers from many of the same problems as "pedosexual" in addition to being more obscure.
Capitalization
Since the term "boylover" is most commonly used as a term for a sexual preference analogous to "gay" or "homosexual," it is most properly used as a common noun and therefore not capitalized in English. Some writers will capitalize it, and others will even write it in mixed case ("BoyLover"), but these alternative capitalizations are in the nature of artistic license. Other languages seem to follow local standards for common, compound nouns as well.
Terms for boylover in other languages
- German: Boylover, Knabenliebhaber, Jungenliebhaber
See also
- Boylove
- Boy
- Little boy lover
- Teen boy lover
- Boylove Manifesto
- Boylove community
- High Boylover Priesthood
