User4/draft/Are BoyLovers Pedophiles?
According to the characteristics described below regarding pedophiles, BoyLovers are not pedophiles! Research has shown that young people (including children) do act seductively towards adults, that BoyLovers do not suffer from psychopathia, that BoyLovers do demonstrate great empathy towards their "young friends," that BoyLovers do tend to be very good at reading the body language of their "young friends," and that the BoyLover's blaming of society for the problems BoyLovers tend to experience is an accurate portrayal of the current situation in society.
Therefore, BoyLovers are not pedophiles!
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html
Pedophiles seem to have narcissistic and antisocial (psychopathic) traits. They lack empathy for their victims and express no remorse for their actions. They are in denial and, beingpathological confabulators, they rationalize their transgressions, claiming that the children were merely being educated for their own good and, anyhow, derived great pleasure from it.
The pedophile's ego-syntony rests on his alloplastic defenses. He generally tends to blame others (or the world or the "system") for his misfortunes, failures, and deficiencies.Pedophiles frequently accuse their victims of acting promiscuously, of "coming on to them", of actively tempting, provoking, and luring (or even trapping) them.
The pedophile - similar to the autistic patient - misinterprets the child's body language and inter-personal cues. His social communication skills are impaired and he fails to adjust information gained to the surrounding circumstances (for instance, to the kid's age and maturity).
(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
https://archive.org/details/PedophileNarcissistNarcissismPedophiliaAndHebephilia
